How do you know if your wife is still IN love with you? I’m not exaggerating when I say 100% of the men I’ve worked with have explained that when their wives told them that she was leaving, they all said the same thing: ”I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”

If you can understand and decode your wife’s actual love language — and I’m not talking about that love language — by understanding these five signs, she will do anything for you. You’ll be her savior, her only man, and she’ll never want to leave because of how you make her feel.

If you fail to completely miss the mark and not make her consistently fall in love with you by doing these things, she will leave you for another guy. That’s the harsh truth.

Sign #1

That leads us to the first sign that a woman is in love with you: she would do anything for him. You have to recognize that when a woman is in love with you, she’s going above and beyond just to see you. She’s exerting a lot of energy and time to see you. If a girl is no longer showing interest or she’s no longer in love with you, she’ll make excuses not to see you. I used to teach dating to men, and a lot of times, guys would say,

“She keeps on making excuses. I guess I’ll just hit her up until she’s finding time to hang out with me.”

If she wants to see you, you’ll be a priority in her schedule. Even if it isn’t necessarily a “date” context, just seeing you in a neutral setting would be enough for her. When she loves you, she should have a deep craving to be with you regardless of what situation you see her in.

Sign #2

Remember when she was naggy or critical of everything you did? That is a sign she’s in love with you. Women do not share and express vulnerable emotions unless they care about that person. If she’s sharing her problems with you, it’s because she wants to work them out. She feels comfortable expressing what’s inside of her. The opposite of love isn’t hate; it’s indifference. If she’s showing these vulnerable emotions — complaining, sad, fearful, jealous, etc. — even if you don’t like it, it is still a sign that she cares enough to nag. The moment she stops showing you those emotions and shuts inward, she leaves.

Sign #3

When you’re in love with someone, you want to do everything that you can for that person to make them feel loved. Often, this comes out as vocalizing and visualizing plans. Making plans together shows that you see each other in the future. I call this third sign “Projected Future Reality.” Essentially, when a woman shows ideas of wanting to spend time with you in the future, she’s in love with you.

An example of this is a client of mine named Robert. One day, his wife “I’m no longer in love with you,” but then she started planning to go to Bermuda with him. I got a call from Robert the other day where he explained that after wanting a divorce, she designed a week-long vacation for the two of them the next day. He was confused. I told Robert that she wouldn’t make plans if she didn’t love him. A few weeks later, Robert and his wife had ripped up the divorce papers and were off to Bermuda.

Sign #4

​This sign is easy to see in friendships but much harder to see in a committed romantic relationship with someone. I call it “Accepting Your Influence.” In conversation, if your wife seeks to understand your perspective on a situation and is somewhat flexible about the outcome, it’s a telltale sign that she’s in love with you. This can come in the shape of her asking questions, being curious, or reflecting on her feelings. Once you know how to look for it, it is simple to see. If she’s in love with you, she’ll have the respect to see your side and consider it.

Sign #5

This one is pretty obvious, but if she’s pursuing physical contact with you, whether that’s a hug, a touch on the arm, or something more intimate, she still feels love for you. When she’s physically flirty, it shows that she feels close enough to you emotionally and physically to touch you. This is a plain sign that she still loves you.

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