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5 Signs To Tell If Your Wife Still Loves You

Published

3 years ago

October 9, 2023

How do you know if your wife is still IN love with you? I’m not exaggerating when I say 100% of the men I’ve worked with have explained that when their wives told them that she was leaving, they all said the same thing: ”I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”

If you can understand and decode your wife’s actual love language — and I’m not talking about that love language — by understanding these five signs, she will do anything for you. You’ll be her savior, her only man, and she’ll never want to leave because of how you make her feel.

If you fail to completely miss the mark and not make her consistently fall in love with you by doing these things, she will leave you for another guy. That’s the harsh truth.

Sign #1

That leads us to the first sign that a woman is in love with you: she would do anything for him. You have to recognize that when a woman is in love with you, she’s going above and beyond just to see you. She’s exerting a lot of energy and time to see you. If a girl is no longer showing interest or she’s no longer in love with you, she’ll make excuses not to see you. I used to teach dating to men, and a lot of times, guys would say,

“She keeps on making excuses. I guess I’ll just hit her up until she’s finding time to hang out with me.”

If she wants to see you, you’ll be a priority in her schedule. Even if it isn’t necessarily a “date” context, just seeing you in a neutral setting would be enough for her. When she loves you, she should have a deep craving to be with you regardless of what situation you see her in.

Sign #2

Remember when she was naggy or critical of everything you did? That is a sign she’s in love with you. Women do not share and express vulnerable emotions unless they care about that person. If she’s sharing her problems with you, it’s because she wants to work them out. She feels comfortable expressing what’s inside of her. The opposite of love isn’t hate; it’s indifference. If she’s showing these vulnerable emotions — complaining, sad, fearful, jealous, etc. — even if you don’t like it, it is still a sign that she cares enough to nag. The moment she stops showing you those emotions and shuts inward, she leaves.

Sign #3

When you’re in love with someone, you want to do everything that you can for that person to make them feel loved. Often, this comes out as vocalizing and visualizing plans. Making plans together shows that you see each other in the future. I call this third sign “Projected Future Reality.” Essentially, when a woman shows ideas of wanting to spend time with you in the future, she’s in love with you.

An example of this is a client of mine named Robert. One day, his wife “I’m no longer in love with you,” but then she started planning to go to Bermuda with him. I got a call from Robert the other day where he explained that after wanting a divorce, she designed a week-long vacation for the two of them the next day. He was confused. I told Robert that she wouldn’t make plans if she didn’t love him. A few weeks later, Robert and his wife had ripped up the divorce papers and were off to Bermuda.

Sign #4

This sign is easy to see in friendships but much harder to see in a committed romantic relationship with someone. I call it “Accepting Your Influence.” In conversation, if your wife seeks to understand your perspective on a situation and is somewhat flexible about the outcome, it’s a telltale sign that she’s in love with you. This can come in the shape of her asking questions, being curious, or reflecting on her feelings. Once you know how to look for it, it is simple to see. If she’s in love with you, she’ll have the respect to see your side and consider it.

Sign #5

This one is pretty obvious, but if she’s pursuing physical contact with you, whether that’s a hug, a touch on the arm, or something more intimate, she still feels love for you. When she’s physically flirty, it shows that she feels close enough to you emotionally and physically to touch you. This is a plain sign that she still loves you.

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Why Toba Ogunremi Believes High-Performing Teams Start with Belonging, Not Pressure

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1 day ago

July 23, 2026

Michelle Langton

Most teams don’t fall apart all at once. It happens slowly, missed conversations, quiet disengagement, people doing what’s required but nothing more.

Toba Ogunremi has spent years working inside care environments where that kind of shift is easy to miss until it starts affecting everything. Leading operations at Samorem Care in the UK, he has seen how systems can appear stable on the surface while teams underneath struggle to stay connected to their work.

One experience early in his career changed how he looks at leadership entirely.

He had taken over a team that wasn’t in crisis, but it wasn’t working well either. The people receiving care were safe, but they weren’t thriving. The same was true for the staff. There was no urgency, no energy, just routine.

The usual solution would have been to tighten control by setting new targets, increasing supervision, and creating performance plans. He didn’t do any of that.

“I started with conversations,” he says. “Real ones. Not rushed, not formal.”

One by one, he spoke to each team member. What came out wasn’t frustration with the job itself, but something quieter and harder to spot.

“They weren’t disengaged because they didn’t care,” he explains. “They were disengaged because they felt unseen.”

No one had asked what they thought. No one had taken the time to understand how they were coping. Over time, that absence had turned into distance. That moment stayed with him. It shaped how he leads today.

His approach is simple, but not always easy to apply: people perform better when they feel they belong.

He believes high performance usually comes when people feel like they genuinely belong and know that what they do actually matters.

In healthcare, where pressure is constant and expectations are high, this idea can sound secondary. The focus is often on outcomes, compliance, and efficiency. Toba doesn’t dismiss those things, but he questions what happens when they become the only focus.

Even when all the processes are in place, if the people delivering the care feel disconnected, it eventually reflects in the quality of the work.

At Samorem Care, this thinking shows up in small but consistent ways. Recruitment is not just about experience. It’s about how someone responds to people, how they handle pressure, and how they communicate. Once they are in, the focus shifts to keeping teams stable and supported, rather than constantly rotating staff or reacting only when something goes wrong. He also pays attention to how leaders show up day to day.

According to him, leadership is not just about giving direction; it’s about being present enough to understand what your team actually needs.

That presence matters more in care than in most industries. The work is demanding, often emotional, and not always recognised for what it takes. When teams feel stretched or overlooked, it affects how they interact with the people they support.

For Toba, resilience is less about constant pressure and more about creating a work environment where people can do their jobs well without burning out. In his view, strong teams are not just coping; they are supported enough to stay clear-headed and consistent in their work.

His background outside healthcare still shapes how he leads. Having worked in sales and communications, he understands how important it is to read people and build trust. In healthcare, though, the impact is far more direct, as decisions affect someone’s everyday life, not just an outcome on paper.

That shift makes leadership more personal. Teams need more than instructions; they need stability, clarity, and a sense that they are understood. What defines Toba Ogunremi’s approach is its simplicity. He focuses on being consistent, listening carefully, and addressing issues early rather than reacting late.

In the end, his belief is straightforward: teams perform better not because they are pushed harder, but because they feel valued and part of something that works.