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Research Shows 5 Ways to Improve your Online Dating Profile to Maximise Success

Published

6 years ago

January 31, 2020

When it comes to online dating, your profile is a crucial player in the ball game. It is the start point for any potential match. It is the first glance at you from afar, just as it would be if you were out and about in a real life dating situation.

Of course, one glance and a caption of information can’t fully represent any of us to any deeper extent. But it is the calling card of who we are, and it can be a fantastic place to begin.

Thankfully, there are many different easy and applicable ways that you can take control of things to significantly improve your dating profile.

From flattering profile photo choices to impactful captions, anyone and everyone (including you) can share the best of who you are easily and effectively. So let’s get started, to get you the connections you deserve!

Here is your 5 step guide to online dating success on whichever free dating app or website you choose to use:

Here are 7 easy ways to instantly boost your dating profile success potential – and every pointer is one you can action today!

1) Make sure it’s the right app for you. Looking for casual dating? You might want to try a simple match connection app such as Tinder, Bumble or PoF. Want something more specific? Perhaps try one of the many free dating apps that fit a niche, such as Uniform Dating (for those working in the services) or Vegansk (for plant based daters). In the same way you head out to the shops that you know will sell the products you like, the same goes for romantic online dating. Apply this simple rule and you’ll save yourself a whole lot of time – valuable time that could be better spent meeting someone you really connect with!

2) Ask a friend for a review. Our friends often are the best judge of what’s right for us. They also know us better than we might know ourselves, and are therefore a great source of outsider perspective. Take a screenshot of your profile pages or copy and paste your captions and send them to a trusted friend or two for their opinions. You might be surprised at their suggestions! They could prove to be an invaluable guide in your quest to creating as profile that best represents you. Let them cherry pick the best parts of who you are to share with the online dating world. Stay open minded, and try not to take any offence at what they tell you. Remember, the purpose of the exercise is to help you meet people that will suit you. Your friends already love you for who you are, so they are a great source of guidance in this area.

3) Say cheese! No, not the cheesy lines. We’re talking all things photographic! You don’t need to hire a photographer to get the images you need in order to show yourself in the best light, unless you want to. But you do need a set of recent and well lit photographs that show you off at your very best. If you don’t have any images that are suitable then grab a friend and a camera! Take a fun few hours to experiment with angles in your favourite park. Feel self conscious? Take some at home, or in your garden! Make sure you’re feeling relaxed and comfortable and that you’re wearing something similar to what you might wear on your first date. Oh, and while we are here….no filters.

4) Avoid negativity at all costs. We’ve all seen profiles that bear the statement ‘don’t waste my time’ or the classic ‘if you aren’t interested in something serious, then don’t bother me’. Unattractive, right? It might be tempting to write something like this after a string of date disasters but try resist. It will only make you look like negative person. Perhaps even a little aggressive. Neither is an attractive quality! You don’t know what your potential date might be attracted to and you might actually be ruling yourself out by being misleading on your profile. Be clear about who you are and what you’re about from the offset and you’ll avoid unwanted misunderstandings later down the line.

5) Cut clues, add clarity. Multiple person photos, or ‘hint’ facts about who you are simply won’t work. No one wants their dating endeavours to feel like part-time detective work, so don’t cultivate that in your profile. Even if your friend is the ‘looker’ and you think you’re being smart by alluding to the fact it might be him! Just don’t do it. No one likes an unwelcome surprise! Plus, you don’t know what your potential dates will be attracted to and you might actually be ruling yourself out by confusing them. Be clear about who you are and what you’re about from the offset and you’ll avoid unwanted misunderstandings later down the line.

There is no perfected recipe for dating success, unfortunately. But using these techniques will hugely improve your chances of meeting some incredible people – and to help them to find you, too!

Every journey starts with a single step – and your online dating profile is that important first step. Dating is an individual process. Enjoy it for what it is and always stay positive and open minded.

Which brings me to something I wanted to share. I recently ran across a 100 percent free dating site called Free.Date and I kind of love it. Most free dating sites are not really free but this one is.

Just remember that there are people out there who can’t wait to meet you. So start refining those online dating profiles and start enjoying your online dating life!

Lifestyle

When Seasons Shift: Dr. Leeshe Grimes on Grief, Loneliness, and Finding Light Again

Published

7 hours ago

February 22, 2026

Michelle Langton

Some emotional storms arrive without warning. A sudden change in weather, a holiday approaching, or even a bright sunny day can stir feelings that don’t match the world outside. For many people, the hardest seasons are not defined by temperature; they are defined by what’s happening inside, where grief and loneliness often move quietly.

This is the emotional terrain where Dr. Leeshe Grimes has spent her career doing some of her most meaningful work. As a psychotherapist, registered play therapist, retired U.S. Army combat veteran, and founder of Elevated Minds in the DMV area, she understands how deeply seasonal shifts and unresolved grief can affect people. Her upcoming books explore this very space, guiding readers through the emotional weight that can appear during different times of the year.

What sets Dr. Grimes apart is her ability to see clearly what many people overlook. Seasonal depression, for example, is usually tied to winter months. But she often sees it appear during warm, bright seasons, the times when the world seems happiest. For someone already grieving or feeling disconnected, watching others travel, celebrate, or gather can create its own kind of heaviness. Sunshine doesn’t always lift the mood; sometimes it highlights what feels missing.

The same misunderstanding surrounds grief. Society often treats it as a short-term experience with predictable phases and a clean ending. But in her practice, Dr. Grimes sees how grief keeps evolving. It doesn’t disappear on a timeline. It weaves itself into routines, memories, and milestones. People learn to carry it differently, but they rarely leave it behind completely. And that’s not failure, it’s human.

Her approach to mental health centers on truth rather than pressure. She encourages clients to acknowledge the emotions they try to hide: sadness that lingers longer than expected, moments of joy that feel out of place, and the waves of loneliness that return even when life seems stable. Instead of pushing for quick recovery, she focuses on helping people understand how emotions shift and how to care for themselves through those changes.

Much of her insight comes from her military years, where she witnessed the emotional toll of loss, transition, and constant survival. She saw how people continued functioning while carrying pain that had nowhere to go. That experience shaped her belief that healing requires space, space to feel, to speak, and to move through emotions without judgment.

In her clinical work today at Elevated Minds, she encourages people to build small, steady habits that anchor them during difficult seasons. Journaling helps them recognize patterns and name what feels heavy. Community support breaks the cycle of isolation. Therapy creates a place where emotions don’t have to be minimized or explained away. And intentional routines, daily sunlight, mindful breaks, and calm evenings help rebuild emotional balance.

Her upcoming books expand on these ideas, offering practical guidance for navigating both grief and seasonal depression. She focuses on helping readers understand that healing is not about escaping pain. It’s about learning how to live with it in a healthier way, honoring memories, acknowledging loneliness, and still allowing room for moments of light.

What makes Dr. Leeshe Grimes a compelling voice in mental health is her ability to bring language to experiences that many struggle to explain. She reminds people that emotional seasons don’t always match the weather and that there is no single path through grief. But within those shifts, she believes there is always a way forward.

The seasons will continue to change. And with the right tools, compassion, and support, people can change with them, finding steadiness, softness, and light again, one step at a time.