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3 Mental Habits To Win Your Wife Back




Have you heard the words:

“It’s over. I’m done. There’s no chance. I am no longer in love with you.”

You made a huge mistake when you heard those words. The error you made is that you believed what she was saying. Don’t get me wrong; almost every single husband makes the same mistake. I get it. You felt devastated when you heard those heartbreaking words. Although it rattled you, luckily, there are three mental habits that you can do to get your wife to regret ever saying them and want you back. You must understand these three things to retain her. These mental habits are inner shifts you make within yourself to get a completely different external result.

You would think some giant betrayal causes wives to leave, move out, see another man, or ask for a divorce. The truth is, most times, it isn’t that at all. Instead, it’s death by a thousand cuts. I call it the emotional tipping scale.

Emotional Tipping Scale

 Imagine that there are all the positive emotions on one side of a scale. At the beginning of the relationship, you guys had a lot in this emotional bank. As time continued, every time you were complacent, you didn’t choose her, you didn’t lead, you became emotionally reactive, or you shut down your emotions. Each of these disconnections was another item on the negative side of the scale. This happened until one single event broke the camel’s back.

This emotional Tipping Point is scientifically proven. Studies show that successful and happy marriages that last a long time have four positive emotional experiences to every one negative experience. If there are too many negative experiences, you become the villain in her life instead of the hero. That being said, even too many positive interactions will make her lose respect and leave you.

Context Transference

Mastering context transference will skyrocket your results with your wife on autopilot. I hear so many men say this exact thing,

“I don’t get it. At work, with my employees and colleagues, I’m confident, unreactive, and listen to their emotions. If I could be that way with my wife, my marriage wouldn’t be falling apart.”

For this first tip, you don’t have to learn anything new. You possess all the skills already, and you just have to learn how to apply these skills to your wife.

For example, when I was in college, there would be girls I didn’t care much about. I wasn’t attracted to them, and I was carefree. I was funny, confident, and relaxed; everything I needed to do to get them to like me more. Then, I met this girl. As soon as I met her, I had a huge crush. I romanticized her, put her on a pedestal, and couldn’t think when I was around her. I was frozen stiff, didn’t say a word, didn’t make funny jokes, and didn’t do all the relaxed things I would typically do around women. Because of this, she didn’t see who I was and wasn’t attracted to me. One day, I asked her out and got rejected. I was curious why this happened to me, so I researched it. I found a technique from neuro-linguistic programming and did a visualization exercise where I could remove the anxiety and the fear, shed that layer of insecurity, and become my highest-value self. You need to find total confidence in who you are and then apply that same framework to the situations you’re struggling with while talking to your wife. Having that confidence in yourself is so powerful she’ll swoon over you.

Guided Forgiveness

Many guys think they’ve forgiven their wives, but they haven’t. Frequently, I see that guys have an underlying tone of hesitance that’s still harbored in the tone of their voice. The other day, I was running a group call on the Marriage Mastery Program and talking to the guys about an intense internal topic. What I found for this group was that when the guys were in a safe place talking with other men going through the same thing, they could clearly define what they hadn’t truly forgiven their wives for. They had a small subconscious thought that was taking a toll on their relationship with their wives. The first step is becoming aware of your doubts, but the second is understanding how to change them. It doesn’t matter what communication changes or external changes you make in your relationship. If that voice is still in the back of your head, it’ll find subtle ways to sabotage it all. Forgiveness is the only way to quiet that voice.

I want you to imagine strings on the back of your head pulling you to the past. Every time there is a new fight with her, those strings get pulled, and you’re guided back to the past. When you’re focusing on the past, using past emotions, actions, and thoughts, you will replicate the same scenarios every single time. If you find a way to cut off that string from the past, you can move forward toward the new future with your wife that you want. Forgiveness is your scissors. Your ability to use them is the context transference. The ability to find them is the third mental habit.

Eudemonia Exaltation

Eudemonia means “the condition of human flourishing.” The opposite of that is hedonism, which is immediate pleasure and wanting to avoid pain at all costs.

I want you to imagine that you lost your keys in the dark in your house. You have a date with your wife in 20 minutes, so you’re frantically looking for the keys. You’re scrambling around the dark house when you see a street lamp out the window. You realize there’s light under the streetlamp, so you go into the light and search there. Even though there’s light, why are you searching for the keys outside when you know you lost them inside your house?

This is exactly what most men do, and you probably do the same. How often do you look for answers to saving your marriage outside yourself? Whether it’s you blaming it on your wife’s bipolar tendencies, narcissism, abuse, trauma, her family, or her friends, you’re looking for outside issues to fix an internal problem. When you look for answers to improve your marriage outside of your power, you’re looking for your keys outside when you know you lost them inside. If you change the patterns within yourself, you’ll find the answers to saving your marriage.


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Rosario is from New York and has worked with leading companies like Microsoft as a copy-writer in the past. Now he spends his time writing for readers of

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From Wealth to Fields: A Billionaire’s Commitment to Small Farmers




In recent years, billionaire Stefan Soloviev has transitioned from the world of New York real estate to the fertile farmlands of the American West. 

His journey from urban wealth to rural development showcases a unique dedication to revitalizing small farming communities and transforming the agricultural landscape.

A New Vision for Agriculture

Stefan Soloviev, son of the late real estate tycoon Sheldon Solow, has amassed a considerable amount of farmland across Colorado, Kansas, and New Mexico. Soloviev’s agricultural enterprise, Crossroads Agriculture, spans over 400,000 acres, making him one of the largest landowners in the United States. 

This substantial investment is not merely a financial venture; it represents a commitment to supporting and empowering small farmers in these regions.

Soloviev’s approach to farming is characterized by his desire to move away from competitive practices that often leave small farmers struggling. Instead, he emphasizes collaboration and sustainability. 

By leveraging his resources, Soloviev aims to create a farming environment where smallholders can thrive alongside larger operations. This philosophy is particularly evident in his strategic acquisition of the San Luis & Rio Grande Railroad, a critical transportation link for agricultural products in the region.

Revitalizing Rural Communities

Soloviev’s impact extends beyond farmland acquisition. His purchase of the San Luis & Rio Grande Railroad at a bankruptcy auction for $10.7 million highlights his broader vision for the agricultural sector. 

This railroad, previously owned by Iowa Pacific Holdings, connects the San Luis Valley to the national rail network, facilitating the efficient transport of goods and boosting local economies.

The acquisition is seen as a positive development for the San Luis Valley, with Soloviev’s Colorado Pacific Railroad expected to be more community-focused and supportive of local initiatives compared to the previous owners. This includes potential cooperation with local recreational projects, such as the proposed Heart of the Valley Trail, which aims to integrate rail and trail use for community benefit.

Soloviev’s dedication to the region is also reflected in his willingness to work with local stakeholders to address community needs. His approach contrasts with more traditional, profit-driven business models and underscores his commitment to fostering a sustainable and inclusive agricultural ecosystem.

Building a Sustainable Future

Soloviev’s investment in the Colorado Pacific Railroad and the broader agricultural infrastructure is part of a long-term vision to create a more resilient and sustainable farming community. By improving transportation networks and providing support to small farmers, he hopes to mitigate some of the challenges these farmers face, such as market access and transportation costs.

Moreover, Soloviev’s initiatives are seen as a way to preserve and enhance the rural way of life, which is increasingly threatened by industrial farming and urban encroachment. His efforts to balance economic viability with environmental stewardship demonstrate a nuanced understanding of the complexities of modern agriculture.

In conclusion, Stefan Soloviev’s transition from urban real estate mogul to a champion of small farmers is a testament to his innovative and community-oriented approach. 

His significant investments in farmland and infrastructure, coupled with a commitment to sustainability and local engagement, are paving the way for a brighter future for small farmers in Colorado and beyond. Through his efforts, Soloviev is not only transforming

the agricultural landscape but also setting a precedent for how wealth and resources can be used to foster positive change in rural communities​. 

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