Business

Xander Neff Helps with Taking the First Step

Published

4 years ago

October 7, 2020

Take it from the guy who literally had to learn to walk all over again in his late teens; first steps are hard. Xander Neff knows all about it. He wouldn’t let the hardship stop him–he never did with whatever he was going through–but he could understand why a new beginning might give people some pause.

He’s had a few new beginnings of his own. As a kid, he did every job he could find, juggling as many as three at one point. Then after the accident that paralyzed him from the waist down, he decided to join the Army once he was well enough.

Then, when the Army thing didn’t pan out because of another injury and he wound up homeless, he had to make one more first step and move out of his car and into hotel rooms while on tour with Girls Night Out the Show. Those are plenty of very difficult firsts packed into his young life. Here’s what he’d say to others about the lessons it taught him.

Defining the Biggest Challenge

Different fitness, entrepreneurship, and any other kinds of gurus will focus on different areas when looking for the biggest challenge for starting a business or any other kind of endeavor. Xander uses a football analogy to explain his philosophy.

“In football, it’s not having the quickest 40-yard dash that makes the best player,” he explains. “The best player is the man that, within the first 3 steps, is already a mile ahead of his opponent with a vision of drive and determination that will get him to the end zone.”

It’s those three first steps that determine the player’s direction, intent, drive, and every other trait that will bring them to the end zone. So as someone who is trying to translate this into the world of business, it would be best just to stick to the basic tenet of not going into it blind. Having the idea–those three steps that will chart a direction–can mean the world.

Getting the Right Mindset

Unfortunately, it’s impossible to avoid talking about mindset when trying to help people get out of a rut. Mindsets are important, no matter how often they’ve been an abused concept to spew all kinds of nonsense.

With Xander, the nonsense is nonexistent. It’s pretty simple. Failure doesn’t exist; there are just opportunities to learn. As a master of reframing himself, it’s easy for Xander to say this. But it gets even better because he would also advise looking for other common “opportunities to learn.” Creating a picture from different learning curves can create a pretty accurate image of what it takes to succeed in any endeavor.

So how does one take that first step? It’s easy. First, make sure that all the steps that have to happen before the first step are done. Next, have a clear vision of the past, the future, and as many variables as possible; that can make all the difference. Finally, going into it, even knowing that failure is an option is a key part and the best thing about making that first step.

You can follow Xander Neff on Instagram at @xander.fit.

Business

Turning Tragedy into Triumph Through Walking With Anthony

Published

1 week ago

April 18, 2024

Rosario Farell

On the morning of February 6, 2010, Anthony Purcell took a moment to admire the churning surf before plunging into the waves off Miami Beach. Though he had made the dive numerous times before, that morning was destined to be different when he crashed into a hidden sandbar, sustaining bruises to his C5 and C6 vertebrae and breaking his neck.

“I was completely submerged and unable to rise to the surface,” Purcell recalls. “Fortunately, my cousin Bernie saw what was happening and came to my rescue. He saved my life, but things would never be the same after that dive.”

Like thousands of others who are confronted with a spinal cord injury (SCI), Purcell plunged headlong into long months of hopelessness and despair. Eventually, however, he learned to turn personal tragedy into triumph as he reached out to fellow SCI victims by launching Walking With Anthony.

Living with SCI: the first dark days

Initial rehabilitation for those with SCIs takes an average of three to six months, during which time they must relearn hundreds of fundamental skills and adjust to what feels like an entirely new body. Unfortunately, after 21 days, Purcell’s insurance stopped paying for this essential treatment, even though he had made only minimal improvement in such a short time.

“Insurance companies cover rehab costs for people with back injuries, but not for people with spinal cord injuries,” explains Purcell. “We were practically thrown to the curb. At that time, I was so immobile that I couldn’t even raise my arms to feed myself.”

Instead of giving up, Purcell’s mother chose to battle his SCI with long-term rehab. She enrolled Purcell in Project Walk, a rehabilitation facility located in Carlsbad, California, but one that came with an annual cost of over $100,000.

“My parents paid for rehabilitation treatment for over three years,” says Purcell. “Throughout that time, they taught me the importance of patience, compassion, and unconditional love.”

Yet despite his family’s support, Purcell still struggled. “Those were dark days when I couldn’t bring myself to accept the bleak prognosis ahead of me,” he says. “I faced life in a wheelchair and the never-ending struggle for healthcare access, coverage, and advocacy. I hit my share of low points, and there were times when I seriously contemplated giving up on life altogether.”

Purcell finds a new purpose in helping others with SCIs

After long months of depression and self-doubt, Purcell’s mother determined it was time for her son to find purpose beyond rehabilitation.

“My mom suggested I start Walking With Anthony to show people with spinal cord injuries that they were not alone,” Purcell remarks. “When I began to focus on other people besides myself, I realized that people all around the world with spinal cord injuries were suffering because of restrictions on coverage and healthcare access. The question that plagued me most was, ‘What about the people with spinal cord injuries who cannot afford the cost of rehabilitation?’ I had no idea how they were managing.”

Purcell and his mother knew they wanted to make a difference for other people with SCIs, starting with the creation of grants to help cover essentials like assistive technology and emergency finances. To date, they have helped over 100 SCI patients get back on their feet after suffering a similar life-altering accident.

Purcell demonstrates the power and necessity of rehab for people with SCIs

After targeted rehab, Purcell’s physical and mental health improved drastically. Today, he is able to care for himself, drive his own car, and has even returned to work.

“Thanks to my family’s financial and emotional support, I am making amazing physical improvement,” Purcell comments. “I mustered the strength to rebuild my life and even found the nerve to message Karen, a high school classmate I’d always had a thing for. We reconnected, our friendship evolved into love, and we tied the knot in 2017.”

After all that, Purcell found the drive to push toward one further personal triumph. He married but did not believe a family was in his future. Regardless of his remarkable progress, physicians told him biological children were not an option.

Despite being paralyzed from the chest down, Purcell continued to look for hope. Finally, Dr. Jesse Mills of UCLA Health’s Male Reproductive Medicine department assured Purcell and his wife that the right medical care and in vitro fertilization could make their dream of becoming parents a reality.

“Payton joined our family in the spring of 2023,” Purcell reports. “For so long, I believed my spinal cord injury had taken everything I cared about, but now I am grateful every day. I work to help other people with spinal cord injuries find the same joy and hope. We provide them with access to specialists, funding to pay for innovative treatments, and the desire to move forward with a focus on the future.”