Take it from the guy who literally had to learn to walk all over again in his late teens; first steps are hard. Xander Neff knows all about it. He wouldn’t let the hardship stop him–he never did with whatever he was going through–but he could understand why a new beginning might give people some pause.

He’s had a few new beginnings of his own. As a kid, he did every job he could find, juggling as many as three at one point. Then after the accident that paralyzed him from the waist down, he decided to join the Army once he was well enough.

Then, when the Army thing didn’t pan out because of another injury and he wound up homeless, he had to make one more first step and move out of his car and into hotel rooms while on tour with Girls Night Out the Show. Those are plenty of very difficult firsts packed into his young life. Here’s what he’d say to others about the lessons it taught him.

Defining the Biggest Challenge

Different fitness, entrepreneurship, and any other kinds of gurus will focus on different areas when looking for the biggest challenge for starting a business or any other kind of endeavor. Xander uses a football analogy to explain his philosophy.

“In football, it’s not having the quickest 40-yard dash that makes the best player,” he explains. “The best player is the man that, within the first 3 steps, is already a mile ahead of his opponent with a vision of drive and determination that will get him to the end zone.”

It’s those three first steps that determine the player’s direction, intent, drive, and every other trait that will bring them to the end zone. So as someone who is trying to translate this into the world of business, it would be best just to stick to the basic tenet of not going into it blind. Having the idea–those three steps that will chart a direction–can mean the world.

Getting the Right Mindset

Unfortunately, it’s impossible to avoid talking about mindset when trying to help people get out of a rut. Mindsets are important, no matter how often they’ve been an abused concept to spew all kinds of nonsense.

With Xander, the nonsense is nonexistent. It’s pretty simple. Failure doesn’t exist; there are just opportunities to learn. As a master of reframing himself, it’s easy for Xander to say this. But it gets even better because he would also advise looking for other common “opportunities to learn.” Creating a picture from different learning curves can create a pretty accurate image of what it takes to succeed in any endeavor.

So how does one take that first step? It’s easy. First, make sure that all the steps that have to happen before the first step are done. Next, have a clear vision of the past, the future, and as many variables as possible; that can make all the difference. Finally, going into it, even knowing that failure is an option is a key part and the best thing about making that first step.

You can follow Xander Neff on Instagram at @xander.fit.