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How you can Overcome Trauma And Build New Relationships, with Bella Maree Lane International Heart Wound Healer

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Humans are hard-wired for connection and most of us are motivated to find love in our lives. 

You may have grown up with stories of happy endings and finding your one true love, yet somehow along the way a different  story has become imprinted and this has become a roadblock to love for you, with no easy detour. 

Bella Maree Lane is an international heart wound healer who has experienced firsthand the destructive effects of trauma and created a path to help herself and you to build happier healthier relationships. 

“Without healing past trauma, you are destined to repeat the same mistakes over and over,” she explains. “Once you begin to heal you begin to think, feel, and behave in different ways, and who you attract completely changes. “

A self-professed romantic and an incurable optimist, the source of Bella Maree’s trauma is clearly written in her past. For some, she claims, the trauma story isn’t so obvious and can only be addressed by gently peeling back the layers, exposing it for what it is, and healing the deepest wounds. 

“There is no detour around your pain. If you try and circumvent feeling it, you simply suppress it. If you refuse to feel it, you won’t heal it! You are wired  to avoid pain so it’s natural not to want to relive painful experiences, but it is necessary because when heart wounds are left unhealed, they create unconscious, destructive life patterns,” she says. 

Maya Angelou famously said, ‘I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.’ 

Trauma begins with how you felt in a certain situation, explains Bella Maree, whether the abuse was real or perceived. “For many of us it began with our families, childhood trauma that we buried because we didn’t know how to deal with it, it carries through to our early relationships and continues until we address the beliefs formed by trauma.”

When you have an unhealed trauma, you see things through a particular lens and if you don’t heal the wound, you are highly likely to make the same choices and decisions that lead to  painful outcomes. This is how people get stuck in destructive, repetitive life patterns. If you refuse to do the work, you will keep getting the same lesson presented until you finally understand,” she explains. 

Navigating The Roadblocks To Happiness

Having spent decades studying various healing modalities whilst working to heal the traumatic scars left by her history of abuse and toxic relationships, Bella Maree is now a much sought-after therapist and relationship expert. She offers a range of group workshops and personalized programs that include ‘Emotional Freedom and Learning Love Therapy’, ‘Relationship Enrichment’, and ‘Conscious Intimacy’. 

Through her courses and a growing community on social media, Bella Maree is both present and generous with her time. In her experience, it was not until she realized that she was never going to change the people she chose, until the healing process began to shed light on the ‘why’ behind her choices. 

Bella says that most of us have experienced heartbreak and how we deal with it is very personal. Given that we are hardwired to avoid pain, most of us have declined the heart healing work necessary to recover and to learn to rebuild the trust that enables us to open to love again. “It’s natural for us to look outward to blame those arounds us but healing is an inward journey and so starts with you.”

The softly spoken healer points out that although much of her work revolves around building healthy relationships, she shies away from calling herself a dating guru. Although the feedback from those who have worked with her outlines transformative experiences; of falling in love again and forging deeper connections with partners,this is the by-product of her clients doing their inner work. She says the process is ultimately deeply personal. 

“The journey to find love is the most fertile ground for your personal growth. The journey is full of twists and turns and knowing how to navigate these makes the experience positive regardless of the short-term outcome.”

There’s No Magic Wand

“People want a magic wand but real life does not work that way. In my experience, the universe brings us different people and experiences to show us where we still get triggered and our triggers expose the part of us that is not yet healed. This is the gold and gift inside all relationships.”

An Australian by birth, Bella Maree now resides in LA where she has built her practice. Covid created the opportunity to take much of her work online and build a community that she supports through online presentations and one-on-one sessions. 

The fish does not see the water that it swims in, much like likewise we have a limited ability to see ourselves clearly. That is why working with a practitioner is so helpful, they can see your entire landscape. Willingness to self-reflect is the key to transformation and healing,” she explains. 

Your Traumas Become Your Shadow

“Your traumas become your shadow, they follow you everywhere from one relationship to the next. Each relationship may be different but the outcome will be the same, it’s like building a house on cracked foundations. Gaining perspective and awareness are the first steps to healing and ultimately lead to releasing us from our own destructive, debilitating patterns.” 

Bella Maree Lane has banished the shadows in her own life and through her work, she helps her clients to find their way into the light, release the pain and fear they have held on to, and learn about what brings them joy. 

Her site has become a valuable resource for those who recognize the repetitive patterns appearing in their lives and are willing to work through their pain. Bella Maree believes that healing the wounds of the heart and building a healthy relationship with yourself is the key to finding happiness in your life, regardless of whether that is with or without a partner. 

The heart-wound therapist is now in her 6th decade and brings a lifetime of experience and healing to her work with clients. Once she found the key to her own happiness, it became her mission to help others. She recently started dating again after many years of personal work and the fact that she is optimistic about the future of her own relationships is a testament to the groundbreaking work she is doing.

Michelle has been a part of the journey ever since Bigtime Daily started. As a strong learner and passionate writer, she contributes her editing skills for the news agency. She also jots down intellectual pieces from categories such as science and health.

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The Future of Education Through Patricia Vlad’s Eyes

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The traditional systems that once defined learning, rigid curricula, standardized testing, and a narrow focus on academic performance, are increasingly being questioned. And why is that?

Starting in the 1880s, thinkers like John Dewey advocated for a shift in teaching methods, leading to the rise of progressive education. Unlike traditional models that emphasize rote learning and job preparation, progressive education puts students at the center of the learning experience. Changemakers like Patricia Vlad also believe that hands-on, experiential learning is the key to deeper understanding. This approach prioritizes critical thinking, curiosity, and personal passions, encouraging students to become lifelong learners who actively engage with new ideas and problem-solving. Schools and parents that embrace this model focus not just on what students need to know but on how they can continue to grow and adapt throughout their lives.

As the world changes, so do the skills, knowledge, and adaptability students need to succeed. The future of education is about personalization, inclusivity, emotional intelligence, and meaningful learning experiences.

With years of global teaching experience, Patricia has seen firsthand how different education systems approach learning. She believes that the future of education must embrace neuroscience, technology, and self-awareness to create a system that is not just efficient but also empowering for students.

“Education should be about more than just passing tests. It should equip students with the skills to navigate life, understand their strengths, and feel empowered in their learning journey,” Patricia emphasizes.

The Future Belongs to the Emotionally Intelligent

Unlike technical skills that may become obsolete with automation, EI – our ability to understand and manage emotions, build relationships, and navigate challenges, remains uniquely human. It plays a crucial role in self-awareness, resilience, effective communication, helping individuals excel in both personal and professional life.

When it comes to EQ, think of it like this: Kids with strong emotional intelligence are better at handling stress, resolving conflicts, and overcoming challenges. Studies suggest that EQ is a stronger predictor of long-term success than IQ. And let’s be real, no matter how advanced AI gets, it will never replace the depth and impact of human connection.

How LevelUp Cultivates Emotional Intelligence Through Patricia’s Coaching

1. Learning Will Be Personalized and Strength-Based

Instead of forcing students to fit into a system, education will be tailored to each child’s learning style, strengths, and interests. Neuroscience-backed methods – such as learning based on attention spans, emotional regulation, and brain development research – will be used to create adaptive learning environments, allowing students to progress at their own pace.

Through tools like LevelUp, which incorporates the Big Five Personality Model, teachers and parents will have a better understanding of a child’s cognitive profile, enabling them to offer more personalized support.

2. Emotional Intelligence Will Be a Core Part of Learning

The future classroom won’t just cover maths, science, history, or even language – it will also focus on self-awareness, empathy, and social skills. As research shows language doesn’t just communicate thought; it actively shapes it. The intentional use of language can influence how the brain processes emotion, memory, and social connection – making it a powerful tool for developing emotional intelligence.

LevelUp integrates EI into its framework, ensuring students not only understand themselves better but also build confidence, manage stress, and develop strong interpersonal skills.

3. Education Will Be More Interdisciplinary

The future of learning will move away from isolated subjects and toward interdisciplinary education, where concepts from different fields are connected and applied to real-world problems.

For example, students might blend neuroscience with psychology to understand learning processes or combine technology and art to develop creative solutions.

4. Technology Will Support, Not Supplant Human Connection

In the classroom of the future, meaningful engagement between students and teachers will remain at the heart of learning. Peer collaboration, hands-on projects, and real-time feedback from teachers will continue to be irreplaceable elements of education. 

Technology will play a supporting role enhancing, rather than dominating, the learning process.

Whether through gamified modules, virtual simulation, or adaptive platforms, tools like LevelUp will be used intentionally to deepen understanding and personalize feedback, always in service of human connection, not as a substitute for it.

5. Schools, Parents, and Students Will Work Together

Education won’t be confined to the classroom. Parents will play a bigger role in guiding their children’s learning, using tools like LevelUp to track progress, support emotional development, and encourage curiosity at home.

By strengthening the parent-child-teacher connection, education will become a team effort, ensuring every student receives the support they need to reach their full potential.

A Future Built on Empowerment

By combining neuroscience, technology, and emotional intelligence, Patricia is helping to reshape education into something that prepares students not just for exams, but for life itself.

A truly effective education system values each student’s creativity and passions—not just their ability to recall information. Instead of just delivering information and expecting rote memorization for test scores, teachers encourage active, hands-on learning through projects, experiments, and peer collaboration. This approach allows students to explore topics that genuinely interest them, making learning more engaging, meaningful, and personal.

The LevelUp platform, developed under Patricia’s leadership, is contributing to a growing shift toward education that is rooted in self-awareness and real-world readiness. Additionally, emotional intelligence is a core part of learning, not an afterthought.

One story that sticks with Patricia is that of a student named Ethan, who had always been labelled “distracted” in class. His teachers described him as bright but inconsistent, often zoning out or fidgeting during lessons. When his LevelUp profile revealed high reactivity and strong openness, a new picture emerged: Ethan wasn’t disengaged—he was overwhelmed by too much information at once and thrived when topics were explored through hands-on, creative activities.

With this insight, his teacher began breaking tasks into smaller steps and introducing art and building projects tied to the curriculum. For the first time, Ethan started raising his hand during class and even stayed back after school to show his work. “We’d been trying to ‘fix’ him when all we needed was to understand him,” his teacher later shared.

It was a small shift, but for Ethan, it changed everything.

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