Lifestyle

Strength and Vulnerability: Majd Zaher’s New Novel Looks Beyond the Veneer of Lebanese Society

Published

5 years ago

June 21, 2021

Your first book ‘Borderline Love in Beirut’ explores some challenging topics and complex characters. Can you explain the inspiration behind the story?

Growing up in a conservative family brought many challenges to my life. There was always something missing in every moment I spent living. There was a part of me that I wanted to discover and unleash yet I was afraid of judgments and backlash. Hence, I grew up as the loneliest kid in town as I had no friends and always found myself the weakest individual wherever I was. Moving out from my family’s house and starting an independent life was an eye-opening experience and the main motive that made me talk and write. I wanted this novel to be a celebration for everyone who doubted his own potential, who thought that other’s opinion would be able to dim his or her own light, and on a personal level I wanted to prove to all those who had ever bullied me that I was able to find success and peace after all.

One of the themes you deal with is marginalization and marginalized groups. Why did you decide to address this topic?

Writing has always been a way to pave the road towards a better world and an escape from the prisons we might be existing in. Talking about marginalized groups is based on my stance that everyone has the right to exist if they are not hurting or killing anyone else; and no one has the right to decide who is eligible to enjoy life and who is not. Unfortunately, in Lebanon, we have no laws to protect vulnerable or marginalized groups. These groups include immigrants, domestic labors, queer people, or any other category. In Borderline Love in Beirut, I was no longer Majd, I ascended to Joy and Adam’s soul to show the world how difficult living life becomes when no one likes you, when everyone avoids you, and when everyone judges you for what you look like and not for the real person you are. In Lebanon, we have laws that penalize love that does not protect women from harassment. In Lebanon, our system does not give any attention to the importance of mental health and does not help marginalized groups to engage in society.

What is the role of mental health in ‘Borderline Love’, and what are some lessons about dealing with or treating mental health issues from the story?

In Borderline Love in Beirut mental health is the crux of the story. I will not be able to say how this Borderline case will evolve yet I could tell you how it all started. Joy and Adam were the victims of a society that has never been able to embrace them the way they are. Experiencing death, upbringing challenges, and health concerns, Joy and Adam grew to become victims each in their own way. The takeaway is that offering mental health care and support for people who undergo a certain trauma, and even those who did not, is something critical. We can no longer sit still when almost every hour a Lebanese citizen ends his or her life. We cannot sit still when people still think seeking mental health care are mad. We should learn that the strongest of us can sometimes be the weakest and most vulnerable.

Is ‘Borderline’ a cautionary tale? Or is it intended as a reflection of another kind?

I see in Borderline Love in Beirut as many tales narrated at once. This novel carries in its pages a cautionary and reflective approach. At many parts of the story when I discussed Joys struggles with loneliness, self-hate and first love I was narrating many past incidents. However, in other pages, I detached myself from this reality and decide to go the extra mile and tell others how destructive it would be for anyone to fall in love before loving himself or herself, or how painful does it become when you don’t praise your uniqueness, or you don’t embrace yourself before listening to people’s judgments.

The book is set in contemporary Beirut and focuses primarily on young characters. How do you perceive your own society in Lebanon in terms of some of these issues, including marginalized groups and mental health issues? What would you hope for the future of Lebanon in terms of societal relations and acceptance?

In Lebanon, the lifestyle is not bearable anymore but I’m still hopeful of what is coming next because I believe one day my people will wake up to realize that coexisting and accepting the other is the only way to guarantee long-lasting peace and prosperity. It is difficult to find words to describe Lebanese society, but I will say that it is strange and paradoxical. For example, if you go to certain areas in Beirut, you’ll see people of different backgrounds enjoying their lives without the essence of discrimination and stigma. However, if you would leave the city for a less than five-minute drive, you will see the opposite. My wish and sincere hope for the future is to have a safe place for all people to live in Lebanon. To have laws that do guarantee the rights of the weak, and more laws to ensure gender equality. I do hope as well more effort will be done to abolish the rules that penalize love and strengthen the rifts in society.

The past year has been incredibly hard for Lebanon, and the world. What do you hope to impart, through ‘Borderline Love’ to young Lebanese who might have struggled through the August 4th explosion, COVID, and other major obstacles?

My message here is for those who have struggled and continue to struggle, for those who have lost and learned, for those who are still seeking to find a path to a safe shore, to all dreamers and seekers, to all lovers, to parents and youth. I want to tell them all that fighting can be exhausting but the end results will be rewarding. Let them all know that we will not rest, nor will we accept living in a place where our brothers and sisters are being killed. Not when the weak are always abused, and when all we want to do is love yet obstacles are placed in our way. Let them all know that we shall rise, and we will rise stronger than ever because after each storm there is always hope. Borderline Love in Beirut is the utmost manifestation of this idea.

Lifestyle

When a Simple Gesture Turns a Difficult Day Around

Published

7 days ago

March 13, 2026

Michelle Langton

Some days feel hard in ways that are difficult to explain. A person may be dealing with illness, stress, grief, or plain exhaustion, and even the smallest task can feel bigger than usual. From the outside, it may not always be clear what to do. Still, one thoughtful act can shift the mood of the whole day.

That idea is easy to miss in a busy world. People are used to quick texts, rushed check-ins, and good intentions that never quite turn into action. Yet the gestures people remember most are usually simple. A handwritten note. A meal that shows up at the right time. A small gift that says someone thought ahead.

These moments matter because they make a person feel less alone. They do not fix everything, but they change the emotional temperature. They soften the day. They create a pause in the middle of stress, and that pause can mean more than people expect.

Why Small Acts of Kindness Feel So Powerful

When someone is going through a rough patch, support works best when it feels easy to receive. That is part of why a thoughtful get well care package can stand out. It does not ask much from the person receiving it. It simply arrives with comfort, warmth, and a quiet message of care.

That message matters. According to the CDC, social isolation and loneliness are linked to serious physical and mental health risks. Feeling supported is not just emotionally nice; it plays a real role in overall well-being. A caring gesture can remind someone that they are still connected to others, even on a day when life feels narrow and heavy.

There is also something powerful about specific care. A generic “hope you feel better” may be appreciated, but a practical, thoughtful gesture tends to land differently. It shows attention. It tells the recipient that someone slowed down long enough to think about what might actually help.

That could mean comfort food, a cozy blanket, tea, soup, or a short note with the right words at the right time. It could also mean sending something that helps a person rest without making another decision. On difficult days, reducing stress is often just as meaningful as offering encouragement.

The emotional effect of that kind of support can last far beyond the moment itself. People may forget what was said in a hard week, but they usually remember how others made them feel. A kind gesture says, “You do not have to carry this day by yourself.” That feeling can last for a long time.

Thoughtful Support Works Better Than Big Support

One reason small gestures work so well is that they do not need to be dramatic. In fact, the best support is often the least complicated. It does not draw attention to itself. It does not demand a big response. It simply meets a need with care.

That makes a difference in both personal and professional settings. In families and friendships, thoughtful support builds trust. In business, it can strengthen relationships in a way that feels human instead of transactional. Clients, coworkers, and partners notice when kindness feels genuine.

A large gift can sometimes miss the mark if it feels too polished or too distant. A smaller gesture with a personal touch often feels more sincere. Timing matters too. The right support at the right moment will usually mean more than something larger that arrives late or feels generic.

Health experts also note that giving can benefit the person who offers support. Cleveland Clinic cites research showing that helping others can lower stress and support emotional well-being. That helps explain why kind gestures often feel meaningful on both sides. The person receiving care feels seen, and the person giving it gets to turn empathy into action.

There is another reason thoughtful support matters. Many people struggle to ask for help, especially when they are used to being dependable for everyone else. A gesture that arrives without pressure can break through that pattern. It gives the recipient permission to pause, rest, and accept care without having to explain or organize it.

That is often what turns a hard day around. Not a big speech. Not perfect timing. Just one clear sign that somebody noticed.

What People Remember After the Hard Part Passes

Most people do not remember every detail of a difficult season. They remember the moments that made it easier to breathe.

They remember the friend who sent something warm and comforting. They remember the colleague who checked in without making it awkward. They remember the family member who helped practically, rather than saying, “Let me know if you need anything” and leaving it at that.

Those moments stay with people because they feel personal. They show care in a form that can be felt right away. They also create a ripple effect. One act of kindness often inspires another, which is how support grows in families, teams, and communities.

That is what makes simple gestures so valuable. They are not small in impact, only small in scale. On a difficult day, that can be exactly what someone needs most.

The Gesture That Changes More Than a Moment

A hard day does not always call for a grand solution. Sometimes it calls for one thoughtful interruption, something warm, useful, and kind enough to remind a person they are not alone.

That is why small gestures matter so much. They bring comfort without noise. They create connections without pressure. They stay in a person’s memory long after the moment has passed. Whether it is a note, a meal, or a carefully chosen get well care package, the right gesture can do more than brighten a day. It can help someone feel cared for when they need it most.