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Brooke Benevento: 3 Tips for Finding Yourself After Raising Kids

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Becoming a mother is a life-altering gift. However,  it’s easy to lose oneself when caring for an infant, and no amount of babysitting or reading blogs can equip us with motherhood’s unique challenges.

In order for your parent mindset shift to occur, you have to trust that there is a place for your parent mind to shift to” states Brooke Benevento, Founder/CEO of Passion Into Purpose Coaching and LandHome Design.

“The fact that you will have to sacrifice a piece of you as a mother will always be a part of your motherhood journey. However,  you can create a healthy happy balance for you and your child. . You are your child’s role model, influencer, and guide until the day you die . . With conscious parenting you can stay true to who you are and in turn give your child a head start in life.”

Over the years, parenthood has taught us that to be the mother your children need, you must first take all reasonable steps to ensure your own well-being. Here are a few beginner tips Brooke Benevento shares about some mindset shifts that you can practice before/after bringing your bundle of joy home.

Accept the changes you are  undergoing 

Recognize the physical changes that are starting to happen to your body while you are pregnant. You are engaging in one of the most beautiful miracles of nature, enjoy it.    “Accepting the changes that are taking place will enable you to enjoy your pregnancy and create a loving space for you and your unborn child. ,” states Brooke.

Set Simple Goals for when you bring the baby home 

Focus on being patient with yourself and your baby’s needs. Take things slow and leave space for you and your baby to bond without the pressures of life. It’s ok to ask close friends or family for help. If you need help with meals, dishes, laundry, or house cleaning make sure to reach out before the baby arrives to see who is available to help for the first few weeks so you can have some stress-free bonding with your baby. Remember, this is your time as a new mom and you get to decide how others get to help you. Help doesn’t always look like them holding the baby and you do the chores. Help is whatever you decide it to be.

Make time for yourself

Self-care is also crucial during this time. When mom is happy, so is her baby. If possible, get your baby settled with another caregiver and take some time to take a hot bath or shower and relax. Maybe, even take a little nap to recharge if needed. Going for a quick walk if you are up for it is also a great way to reconnect with yourself. Nature has an amazing way of grounding our souls and helping us recharge. The key is to find what works for you and make it a habit and incorporate it into your life on a regular basis.

The bottom line: you don’t have to lose yourself in motherhood

Being a mother has many benefits, including fostering enduring ties with your family and assisting them in learning and growth. However, if you are continually depressed and unhappy, it may be challenging to realize these advantages. And what do we desire most for our children? The answer is to watch them prosper and achieve their most ardent aspirations. ” You need to assume the same of yourself,” states Brooke Benevento. “You must always pursue your aspirations if you want your children to do the same for themselves. You are their guiding light and you must show them just as much as you advise them,” she adds.

Furthermore, there is no perfect parent and there are no perfect children. With preparation and some positive goals for yourself as a parent, you will become the best parent you were meant to be.

Michelle has been a part of the journey ever since Bigtime Daily started. As a strong learner and passionate writer, she contributes her editing skills for the news agency. She also jots down intellectual pieces from categories such as science and health.

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When Seasons Shift: Dr. Leeshe Grimes on Grief, Loneliness, and Finding Light Again

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Some emotional storms arrive without warning. A sudden change in weather, a holiday approaching, or even a bright sunny day can stir feelings that don’t match the world outside. For many people, the hardest seasons are not defined by temperature; they are defined by what’s happening inside, where grief and loneliness often move quietly.

This is the emotional terrain where Dr. Leeshe Grimes has spent her career doing some of her most meaningful work. As a psychotherapist, registered play therapist, retired U.S. Army combat veteran, and founder of Elevated Minds in the DMV area, she understands how deeply seasonal shifts and unresolved grief can affect people. Her upcoming books explore this very space, guiding readers through the emotional weight that can appear during different times of the year.

What sets Dr. Grimes apart is her ability to see clearly what many people overlook. Seasonal depression, for example, is usually tied to winter months. But she often sees it appear during warm, bright seasons, the times when the world seems happiest. For someone already grieving or feeling disconnected, watching others travel, celebrate, or gather can create its own kind of heaviness. Sunshine doesn’t always lift the mood; sometimes it highlights what feels missing.

The same misunderstanding surrounds grief. Society often treats it as a short-term experience with predictable phases and a clean ending. But in her practice, Dr. Grimes sees how grief keeps evolving. It doesn’t disappear on a timeline. It weaves itself into routines, memories, and milestones. People learn to carry it differently, but they rarely leave it behind completely. And that’s not failure, it’s human.

Her approach to mental health centers on truth rather than pressure. She encourages clients to acknowledge the emotions they try to hide: sadness that lingers longer than expected, moments of joy that feel out of place, and the waves of loneliness that return even when life seems stable. Instead of pushing for quick recovery, she focuses on helping people understand how emotions shift and how to care for themselves through those changes.

Much of her insight comes from her military years, where she witnessed the emotional toll of loss, transition, and constant survival. She saw how people continued functioning while carrying pain that had nowhere to go. That experience shaped her belief that healing requires space, space to feel, to speak, and to move through emotions without judgment.

In her clinical work today at Elevated Minds, she encourages people to build small, steady habits that anchor them during difficult seasons. Journaling helps them recognize patterns and name what feels heavy. Community support breaks the cycle of isolation. Therapy creates a place where emotions don’t have to be minimized or explained away. And intentional routines, daily sunlight, mindful breaks, and calm evenings help rebuild emotional balance.

Her upcoming books expand on these ideas, offering practical guidance for navigating both grief and seasonal depression. She focuses on helping readers understand that healing is not about escaping pain. It’s about learning how to live with it in a healthier way, honoring memories, acknowledging loneliness, and still allowing room for moments of light.

What makes Dr. Leeshe Grimes a compelling voice in mental health is her ability to bring language to experiences that many struggle to explain. She reminds people that emotional seasons don’t always match the weather and that there is no single path through grief. But within those shifts, she believes there is always a way forward.

The seasons will continue to change. And with the right tools, compassion, and support, people can change with them, finding steadiness, softness, and light again, one step at a time.

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