It’s easy to understand why many people dread and even fear rejection. If you’ve experienced it once, or a few times, you probably remember how much it hurt and worry about it happening again. There is no doubt that rejection hurts and subsequently brings about feelings of self-doubt. However, fearing rejection can hold you back from taking risks and reaching big goals. 

Fortunately, it’s absolutely possible to work through this mind-set with a bit of effort. Here are some tips from entrepreneur Connor Miller to get you started on ways to deal with rejection and self-doubt.

Keep reminding yourself that you are worthy

It never feels good when something doesn’t happen the way you wanted it to, but not all of life’s experiences will turn out the way you hope. No one can really tell you how you’re feeling, except you. Connor Miller explains this from his perspective below.

“Building up self-confidence and self-worth can help you remember that you’re entirely worthy of love and respect, leading you to feel less afraid of continuing your search for it,” he shares.

Never forget everyone has their own share of rejection

Reminding yourself that rejection is just a normal part of life, something everyone will face at some point may help you fear it less. Don’t allow the feeling of self-doubt to bring down your worth.

Look for a learning Opportunity

It may not seem like it right away, but rejection can provide opportunities for self-discovery and growth. 

“Rejection can sting and make you doubt yourself,” Connor Miller admits. “ but fearing it may limit you, preventing you from experiencing much of what life has to offer. Choosing to look at rejection as an opportunity for growth instead of something you can’t change can help you feel less afraid of the possibility”

Realize your part in the situation and face your fear.

“Exploring what’s really behind your fear of rejection can help you address that specific worry. Sure, if you don’t put yourself out there, you won’t experience rejection. But you probably won’t achieve your goals either.”

There is no doubt that going for what you want gives you the chance to experience success. You might experience rejection but then again, you might not. You will never know until you give yourself that push.

Let it out to a friend or loved one

Bottling up rejection and negative situations can make them feel and seem a lot worse than they need to be. Getting external help can be extremely beneficial. Letting it all out and talking it over with a friend, partner or family member can help you to release your pent up emotions and to start seeing the situation with clear and sober eyes.

Keep going

Trace your feelings back to certain life events and play the memory over and over in your mind, as if it were a movie.

“ Process what has happened,” Connor says, “ learn what you can but don’t let the rejection stop you for too long. Don’t let it get you stuck for weeks or months. “

With a focus on what you still have in your life, make up your mind on what you can do differently. Turn your attention to your opinion of yourself and what actions you can take, and keep moving forward!